Typically, in the past men have just been expected to show up, be well-groomed, and wear a tux on the big day! But what we are seeing more and more of nowadays are brides who want their grooms to be a little more engaged in the wedding planning process. If your fiancé is apathetic to the planning process, although it may be a little difficult, there are ways to get him a tad bit more interested.

Occasionally, you may have a bride that is perfectly content with going to the courthouse to say “I do” and perhaps her family is the one who wants her to have the big ceremony and reception. This bride may not be as interested in what flowers will shower her ceremony.

Some Advice

Remember planning can be overwhelming for some. Don’t take it too personal when one person isn’t as all gung-ho about the preparation of it all. It’s important to not get too distracted from what it is you both are really planning for…a beautiful life spent together in love. Anyhow, the following tips could help you turn around a disengaged groom!

  • Communication is key- If you are feeling a bit overpowered by the details, tell your partner. Let your fiancé know that you need their support. It is probably best to prioritize where you would like or need input. Your groom may not really care about the style of the bridesmaids’ dresses.
  • Allocate responsibilities- Make sure you have your list and have a talk with the groom. Perhaps have him tackle the music or cocktail hour/open bar planning for the reception. Some men would feel more than happy to arrange these sort of things.
  • Don’t forget the QT- You and your honey definitely need to continue the date nights during your hectic wedding planning season. It’s important to get that time in even if it seems like free time is beginning to become scarce.
  • Look on the bright side- If you have a groom that isn’t into planning out every single detail, that isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as this means you now have all of the creative power in your hands. Revel in this artistic control.

Groom’s Family

A writer from the “Bridal Guide,” suggests asking the groom’s mom and/or sister (if there is one) to join your wedding planning circle. This would not only bring you some much-needed input but it can also bring you even closer to his family.

Please contact us today here at Sterling Photography International to talk about your engagement, ceremony and reception photographs for one of the most important days of your life!